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I am a Proud Bisexual Male Nudist

I am not a fan of labels.

I think labels try to confine people to a box, therefore, if you are in a box you should think and act like everyone else. This helps to dehumanize people, or automatically discount their ideas and thoughts because they aren’t in your box.

So why did I just go against everything I said and label myself, and put myself in a box? Because I am proud of who the hell I am , and you should be too! That is all that matters in this life.

There are so many people out there silently struggling with sexual curiosities or living a closet bi/gay/non-hetrosexual life. I say non-hetro because “bi” implies two, however, you can consider me Bi+.

I know how much is sucks living in the closet. I lived hidden for a long time being previously married and felt like I couldn’t be myself. I couldn’t fulfill what made me happy and always felt like I was hiding a big part of my life.

It also sucks because I felt like I couldn’t tell anyone or talk to anyone about it.

There are many reasons including shame and stigmas. Both of which were really self-driven. Driven by my own pride and imagine that I wanted to withhold as this “straight, white, alpha-male veteran”.

So when I got divorced I said the hell with living in shame, guilt and fear.

I made the decision that I was going to live me life on the terms I wanted. A re-birth of sorts and that I did.

I began to enjoy the physical and sexual contact of both women and men. I stopped drinking to regain control of my life after being in the grips of alcoholism for 20 years. I sought counseling to help me work through depression and anxiety issues I had for over 10 years prior to therapy.

I made a choice to tell Jess in the very beginning of us talking that I was both bisexual and a nudist. I told her I was willing to curtail bi activities, but wasn’t going to give up being a nudist as that was my go to stress reliver. It was such a relief to be able to tell someone I really liked that I was bi. My first thought is that it would end the relationship. It didn’t.

While both lifestyles were brand new and she had never dated either a bi guy, or a nudist, and certainly not a bi nudist she was opened minded to exploring it. She really took to the nudist life, and she is still unweighed at this point I think on the bi part. I mean it isn’t everyday that a woman marries a bi man, or at least one that is open about it.

I told a few close friends about my sexual orientation and all were supportive. I had a small coming out of sorts here on Bisexual Awareness Day which you can see the post here.

So why a post about my sexuality on a nudist blog?

1. It sucks to live in the closet in fear of being found out.

   – Until you stop worrying about what others think, you will stay in the dark. Some will say “easy for you to say you don’t know my situation” and in some cases I don’t, in other cases I do and have lived it. Some will always live as a closet bi and that is understandable.

2. You know you have an advocate and someone to listen to you.

   – If you are bursting inside to tell someone but you don’t know anyone that is non-judgement, fire away. Email me at everydaynudist@gmail.com and get it off your chest. This is for men, women, non-binary whoever or whatever you identify as and are curious or are lesbian, gay, bi, or curious. It is so relieving to get it off your chest, trust me I know (and part of why I write these types of blogs).

3. Bisexual’s face a higher health risk factors than any of the other LGBT or heterosexual communities.

     – This is in part because of discrimination within the health care providers communities (I have never told any of my VA staff I am bisexual). Furthermore, according to the Human Rights Campaign “Bisexuals face striking rates of poor health outcomes ranging from cancer and obesity, to sexually transmitted infections to mental health problems”. (read the full article here). Therefore, if you are bi you are a greater health risk and your health is important to me and those around you.

Is there a risk factor if you come out publicly? Yes

Will you lose friends. Probably (but do you need half way friends anyways?)

Could you lose family members or support. Maybe.

Is it possible people that supported you suddenly change their minds and turn on you as in some cases like prominent Florida Democrat Andrew Guilliam, or California’s Katie Hill? More than likely. Watch for a following blog on my thoughts around Andrew and Katies lives.

It ultimately comes down to your situation.

However, just know if you need to tell someone I am all ears, or well, eyes. Your secret is safe with me.

I wish you the best in your decision and if you need a bi+ nudist ally, I always got your back.

The question I have for you: are you a proud bisexual male nudist..or female nudist or non-binary or gender fluid nudist?

See you on the other side of the closet….hopefully naked.

Ryan

Your bisexual male nudist from Washington State