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Fear: the silent conversation. The one that takes place without you even knowing it is occurring, and has crushed your dreams for as long as you can remember…until now.
There are three things in this world that you can guarantee: death, change, and fear.
Lets just be honest up front, fear is a motherfucker. Fear is both good (internal survival protection tool against danger) and bad (stops you from doing things you want to do). Fear can be complex, however, for this blog I want to address the simple topic of the title, Fear: The Silent Conversation.
Fear has stopped more dreams, goals and aspirations dead in its tracks, way before they go started.
Why is fear the silent conversation? Because it occurs in your head, with yourself, without a word even being spoken aloud. Think about the last time you wanted to do something, but you talked yourself out of it. Maybe, you had a strong goal or dream and you allowed someone else to plant a seed that grew and overran your desire all due to a “what if…” statement.
If you are like me, you have hundreds of internal conversations with yourself every day. Moreover, it is natural for these conversations to turn to self-doubt or “what if”…and those “what if” usually never have a positive ending. There is some negative ending that will creep in.
Pay attention to your next internal convo and see where it goes. You probably go down the same path I do.
The goal of managing fear is managing the conversation and the images that pop-up in your mind. You first have to catch it early, and the reason I say early is most of the time we don’t even realize we are having it until it is to late and we have gone down a rabbit hole of details on things that were never even said or have occurred.
How many of you reading this are home nudist where you are comfortable only by yourself. You want to try social nudism but never have. You have had a conversation with yourself about your weight, your stretch marks, your saggy boobs, your flat/no boobs, your fear of being seen, your fear of been noticed by someone you know, your fear of having a small penis, people will stare and giggle or talk about you, your fear of an erection that will be seen, your fear of…. The list goes on and on. It is whatever you can imagine in your head. Don’t know what to expect on your first social nudist trip, check out my previous blog here to give a you a good heads up to calm some of your worries.
Once you catch it, you must mold it to where you want it to go. Sounds easy right? Not so much. Probably because you have years of experience in allowing fear to dictate your life and your decisions. But don’t worry, you can start to work on this each and every day. Each conversation you have with yourself, turn the negative “what if” to a slightly more positive one. To learn more about the pyschology of fear check out this article from verywellmind.com.
Turn “what if this doesn’t work and I lose a lot of money?” to “what if this actually works and I make just a little bit of money and I have a great time” and then go to the thought the process of what it would look like being successful.
Don’t listen to these “internet influencers” that will try to sell you on living with fancy cars and all this cash because most of them are full of shit. I will do another post on the self-help industry and the billion dollar bullshit they push.
Unlike many that will tell you to “always think positive and your dreams will come true” can keep their Instagram memes to themselves because many of them are full of shit and live a negative life.
Look, you want to change you have to do it one thought at a time. One tweak at a time.
For most of you who have been negative for a long time will have to take baby steps. Don’t get discouraged if you go back to negative. Why? Because it is what you know and what you are comfortable with. It is a change…and change is uncomfortable.
But trust me, you can do it and you will be amazed at the results.
Don’t go to the dirt with a bunch of dreams you talked yourself out of.
Catch them. Modify them. Live them on your terms.
Not all of them will work out; hell, many of them may not but you will never know unless you try.
Catch you on the other side fear.
Ryan
NOTE: There is a difference between fear and preference. For example, Jess doesn’t fear being seen on here, but her preference is to have her face blurred out when she is nude. Some prefer to be home nudist as they don’t like to be social or want to be around others and enjoy it alone. So don’t confuse someone’s preference for them being fearful.