How do I convince them to join me?
Is your partner is not interested in nudism? Are you seeking a way to magically convince them to join you?
I hear this quite often and to be honest there is no magical answer, or thing to say which will convince your partner to try out being a nudist and like it.
When Jess and I started dating I told her upfront two things: I am bisexual, and I am a nudist. I told her I was fine with not being with men, however, I wouldn’t give up being a nudist as it is something I have enjoyed for 18 years (at that point), and is my go to stress reliever. These are two distinct qualities in a man that she had never dated so it was a lot to take in; however, I wanted to tell her up front so she could walk away early if she wanted. Luckily, she accepted me for who I was, and what I am, and allows me to continue to live my life as both 😊
Important Tips:
I never told her she had to become a nudist for our relationship to work. I told her I would love for her to join me and talked to her about the lifestyle. I told her about her events that I go to and that I would still enjoy going to them, but even more if she joined me IF SHE wanted to. She is really opened minded (obviously dating a bi nudist) so she said she would give it a shot.
I told her about the Southern California Naturist Association, SCNA, (read my review about them here) and how they were clothing optional with zero pressure or expectation for anyone to strip down nude. It is the individual’s choice on how much they want to bare and at their pace to do it. They had a monthly club event at a Korean Spa in Los Angeles so we signed up to go.
One of the main keys to making your partner comfortable is allowing them to go at their pace and have a good experience. If they get their and don’t want to, they shouldn’t have to. A good first impression is key to enjoying the lifestyle, at least in a public and social environment.
So back to the Spa. I figured it was a great event to ease Jess into it and the people there are always super amazing. Buttttttttttt, what I didn’t know was that the only clothing optional place in the spa is the locker room area. The steam room and hot tubs are all nude…no if/an/but’s about it. This was not going as planned, at all.
I told Jess we could leave and go to another event it was no big deal. I didn’t want to force her to be nude her first time without it being on her terms. She said no, we are here I might as well do it. After a few minutes I could see her start to settle in being naked around 20 other people. I think it helped because the members were friendly, held conversations, and didn’t stare or judge. The one thing I continue to talk about in the nudist community.
She ended up liking it and became a member of SCNA herself. Once we moved, she enjoys going to Kaniksu Ranch which is north of Spokane by Loon Lake. Hell, some of our trips are her idea to go out and spend the day, or rent a room overnight.
My only recommendation I have is to ask them if they want to try it out, and go someplace that is clothing optional and not mandatory nude. This allows to them go and hang out and check out the vibe and if comfortable maybe take their top off, or go nude, or hell stay clothed.
There are two things they are normally worried about: 1. Their appearance and how they will match up against the self-envisioned perfect body models they will see at the beach/resort and 2. All the open sex that will be going on around them (both of which we know to not be true). However, it is something they need to experience for themselves and get comfortable. Also, for ladies I would encourage them to read articles on the AANR website about first time nudist experiences, I think it would really help them out.
On the other hand, they may say hell no, never, not gonna do it, not my thing in a million years. For some, they simply are not interested in nudism and that is okay.
It isn’t for everyone, nor will it ever be. If you force it, the outing will be miserable for everyone involved. If it is something you have to do by yourself, then do it by yourself.
There is no magic phrase or potion (outside of alcohol) that helps people be comfortable taking their clothes off!
I wish you the best of luck in getting your partner to join you, it is a really great experience and I know I enjoy it so much better with Jess than without.
Did you have a partner that was a non-nudist that decided to try out and enjoy the lifestyle? If so, would love to hear in the comments below how it went, or how they decided to try it out. Let us know!
Hope to see you with your partner soon!
Ryan