In a world where our lives are so open to others thanks to the internet, we often find ourselves playing it safe…living in comfort.
We often do this because it keeps us from being judged, or “found out” for who we really are, and what we enjoy. Even though we are comfortable (for the most part) in being us, we don’t want others to know because it will bring on scrutiny.
This judgement confines us from being courageous to do what we love, or having to do it in secrecy; ultimately, making us feel like we are doing something wrong or illegal.
It is time that we chose courage over comfort.
Look, people are going to talk about you, good/bad/indifferent anyways. However, I want you to consider this simple question: if a person isn’t willing to give up a kidney for you, or push you out of the way from a moving bus and take the hit themselves, what does their opinion matter anyway?
Think back in your life how many times you haven’t done something because you thought “what will xx think or say?”
How much have we missed out on trying, or doing?
How many times have you heard someone say “you can’t do that”, or “I wouldn’t do that” and you took it to heart and didn’t do it?
Friends, it is time that we stop playing comfortably and start playing courageously.
To do what we want to do, when we want to do it…and to live life on our terms.
Those who don’t like it will talk shit. Those who find your courage as contagious may even try it themselves.
Love yourself more than you love the opinion of others and if you lose some along the way…o’well. Trust me when I tell you, YOU DIDN’T NEED THEM IN YOUR LIFE ANYWAYS!
For those reading this that have wanted to try out nudism but always played the comfort role of “I am to fat, people don’t want to see me naked”, it is time to dig into your courage vault and say f’k it, I am doing it and if they don’t want to see, don’t look.
Stop allowing the people who wouldn’t give you a kidney or get hit by a bus control your joy, happiness, and inner peace. These are 99% of the people on the internet who are either strangers, or are “friends”.
Once you do this, I 100% guarantee your quality of life will improve 100%. It isn’t easy and the older you, the more years you have adopted the comfort role. But each day, keep at it. Fight urge to resort back to comfort, because well, it is comfortable.
Now don’t get me wrong, you don’t owe anyone an explanation. Nor, do you need to tell them anything you are doing. They don’t need to know if YOU don’t want to tell them.
Hell, if you are reading this you will know I am a nudist and I am bisexual. Many of my “friends” and family have no idea of either one. Why? Because it is a choice that I have made to not tell them. It is not because I am embarrassed, if that were the case you wouldn’t know either. It is a choice; however, it hasn’t stopped me from doing it.
I was watching a YouTube video in which Brene Brown said “there will be times when standing alone feels to hard, to scary, and we’ll doubt our ability to make our way through the uncertainty. Someone somewhere will say ‘don’t do it. You don’t have what it takes to survive the wilderness’. This is when you reach deep into your wild heart and remind yourself, I am the wilderness”.
You are the wilderness. You are courageous and braver than you think. Read this previous Everyday Nudist blog “Nudist Step Out from Behind Your Mask”.
It is time to love yourself unconditionally and invest in you and not in doing things so that others will like you or think you are cool.
In your corner,
Ryan
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Yes. It takes courage to take off your clothes and go naked in the world on a public trail, bicycle path, roadway, park, or anywhere else. It takes courage to post your nude image on Twitter for all the world to see instead of the “no cameras” rule at hidden pay-for-play “nudist” venues..
It’s easier to limit your nudity some a once a year “recreation” trip to some far away place rather than take off your clothes and go naked in your daily life. It takes courage to reject the cultural training and be brave enough to be who we are.
I enjoy blg keep good work
Thank you!
It’s highly unlikely the people judging you will stop doing so just because you solve what they perceive as the main problem. If you’re ‘too fat’ to be a nudist and you lose the weight the ‘judges’ say you should, they’ll just drop weight and invent some other issue as their mechanism for their control over you.
Choosing the Comfort route has costs as well. Do your own cost benefit analysis. For me, it’s my many, many misaligned bones. If I go Comfort and avoid a nudist event tonight, my bones will still be out of whack tomorrow morning. If I take the Courage route and go, I’ll have the same costs (misaligned bones, judgemental people but with added benefits (meeting new, non-judgemental people, having fun, etc.).
The Courage gets easier over time, at least for me. A few years back I got dragged to a naked drawing group. Once was all it took. I started posing at my second session and was a regular until Covid hit. On top of that, I’ve since done 3 nude photo shoots for different projects.
You are going to always be judged by someone that will never change, both good and bad. However, the courage part comes in to play when you do something anyways. Like in your case, comfort is staying home because it is more comfortable personally than to do something you enjoy doing even if people will think, or say something behind your back. I have found in the nudist community, no one says anything to your face (99% of the time) because they all have some flaw or defect on full display.
It does get easier over time because you will find most of the people you are hanging with nude all have their own personal discomforts they are working through!
Thanks for the comment and keep on posing!
Good reading thanks for posting.
Thank you!