Start being a quitter today!
Quitters never win: Winners never quit. We have all heard it, and at some point in life we have probably all said it.
However, is it really accurate? Do quitters never win, or do all winners never really quit? I would argue that most successful winners in life have been quitters at many points in their life.
Now I get the intent of the saying, and that is why I used to say it to my son “if you start something you aren’t going to quit it”, sound familiar? The result is we force them to play little league baseball or football all the while they hate it, and truly get nothing out of it. Did this happen to you growing up? If so, I bet it still resonates deep in your subconscious thoughts and keeps you doing things you really don’t like to do.
I read a book several years back called “The 4 Hour Work Week” by Tim Ferris. In this book he talks about quitting, and how it is a good thing. Once I read that, it clicked, and I have been quitting things ever since.
If I am watching a movie or reading a book I don’t like: I quit (even if I paid for it).
If I am volunteering, or working in a position that doesn’t bring me joy: I quit.
An event I am at that sucks and I am unhappy: I quit and leave.
Have a “friend” that steals my energy, or causes more stress than good: I quit hanging around them.
You see, quitting something allows you to win back time, energy, and mental health.
If I stick with the ole, quitter never win I would still be working in a Government job making well over 6 figures still being stressed out and miserable every damn day I wake up. I took the leap into the unknown in search of happiness and joy, over money and security. But I quit!
Continue watching that movie I paid $14 for, I am losing 2 hours of my life that I could be doing something that I want to do.
Sticking around that event is another 2 hours of stress and draining my mental thoughts verses leaving and going to do what I want to do.
So instead of telling our kids they can’t quit, we need to just talk to them about “why” they want to quit and then let them quit. Instead of forcing them to be miserable, actually take the time to figure out what they are passionate about, or want to try, and then let them do that (even if it is something we don’t understand or wouldn’t do ourselves). Want to see the top 50 most successful College drop outs? Check out this article by CBS news…I am bet if you ask them they are probably really glad they quit!
For you adults, think about all the things you are doing that are literally sucking the life out of you and then QUIT them.
Now some of you will say “well I can’t quit”, and in some cases that may be true (unless you are just conditioned to say ‘I can’t’ at most everything outside your comfort zone and you probably say it alot). I would encourage you to then figure out how you can make the best of it.
And don’t worry, by quitting things you have been doing won’t make you a quitter when times get tough. When this happens, your instinct to get out of survival mode and into thriving will kick in…it is human nature.
Also, don’t use this mentality to just quit at will.
If you have goals and the going gets tough, keep going. Trying to lose weight or want to exercise more and you are tired: keep your ass moving. Going through school to get an education to help you achieve whatever your personal goals are: keep your ass attending. Are you going through treatments and want to just give up: keep your ass going. Want to stop being sober because life sucks and it is easier to drink and forget about things: keep your ass sober.
So don’t take this as a carpe launch to just quit at will…this is strategic quitting.
Time to start giving yourself permission to quit and to start living life on your terms today! And if you are still struggling with winning the me vs. me fight, check out this previous blog to see if some of the tips will help you out!
Be a quitter that wins the game of life.
In your corner,
Ryan
I just read this. Find it to an interesting topic to quit or be a winner. Let me say this. At 57 male nudist. It took me awhile to get where want be. That is to happy and not be myself at my old age. I’m currently taking care of my father. Who is 80 years old. He’s needs help. Along with taking care of the house. I have set up counsel of ageing and visiting nurse. I also work 3rd shift as a Iron pourer. One small part. No wonder I’m a nudist! Hmm. Anyways. I have struggled being hard of hearing. Near deaf. The folks I meet over the years suck! Here I am walking way from bad Karam. Your hurting me and I won’t stand for it. So quiting… No I continue to move on. I found support finally! At the forest hill club. I am member of the club and a member of AANR. I wish I found at a early age. But that’s ok. I found it now. My mother passed away two years ago. She was a nurse for forty two years. She’s the one that gave my freedom on a twenty seven acre property at an early age. Will never forget it! Anys.. I feel like a winner in a quiet way to myself. Like I said I a member and going buy property here and making like minded friends. I feel good about this. It’s a long time happening. But I’ll get there. Thank you for letting share. Michael.
Michael,
Thanks for the response and and in no way and I saying people aren’t winners and there is a time and place to quit. The article isn’t meant to encourage people to go out and quit everything, just the things that serve no real purpose for them, or is dragging them down. However, in some positions you can’t quit (at least at the time). Example, don’t like your job quit…but find another job you like first so you don’t bring on hardship unless you are in a toxic and dangerous workplace. I am glad you found a great and supportive nudist community and hey, better late than never!